It's not gay, it's Bromance!
Hey peers,
My post is regarding the term "bromance". If you have not heard of the term, the following music video might help you better understand it.
Bromance Music Video
After watching the video, how do you feel about their actions in the music video?
Definition: "Bromance" is the relationship with your best male friends without the homosexual factor.
Questions:
How often do you see males showing such affections towards other men? Do you believe that it is a common thing in society? why or why not? and if you are a male, how far do you go to express your like to your male friends? Do you find "bromance" offensive? Why or why not and how?
And lastly, would you consider it to be normal if females showed such affection towards another female? if so, why? What factors might account for the misconception?
I think the actions in the video are exaggerated a bit too much, but overall i think bromance is fine. I see it at my school, and its not offenseful. In society I see it occasionally, and I think it is more common now than before. People are communicating with others others about their feelings. I see too many females acting this way towards each other, so I think if females can hug each other and say "I love you", males should be able to as well.
ReplyDeleteI agree, I have also seen males showing bromance at school. Perhaps media has influenced a great deal on people's behavior and roles in society. however, yes, the video was a bit exaggerated.
DeleteI agree with Kiran when she says that the actions are exaggerated, but to be honest, I think that if a guy wants to hug his friend, it is okay. If girls can do it openly without being judged, then guys can do it too because at the end of the day, we are all humans and we should practice equality. Now-a-days, I see more bromance in comparison to a couple years back. I think that it is becoming more widely accepted in the media and since the media has a lot of influence, people are seeing this and are beginning to accept it. Personally, I don't think that bromance is offensive, mainly because I watch a lot of Korean variety shows, and in them, the guys are totally okay with expressing their feelings to their "bros."
ReplyDeleteBut don't you think cultural factors may account to people's behavior? For instance, the Koreans as you said, have their own culture and nation. Could that not have caused their way of viewing things differently than of those in Western Countries?
DeleteYeah, I suppose it does have to do with culture because "bromance" is a prominent part of Korean pop culture, I mean you can see it in any show that you watch, and the fans love it. Since it is so popular there, people are okay with it. Here, in Western pop culture, it didn't seem to be so prominent until now. For example, I see a lot of forums and blogs that are dedicated to "Larry Sylinson" who are the famous 1-Direction couple. It is obviously the fans that have come up with this name and they clearly love the idea of these two being a couple. Therefore, I think that our society is slowly becoming more open minded about a males relationship with another male.
DeleteThe aspects of bromance are massively exaggerated in the video but personally i do not think there is anything wrong with bromance because guys only do it to their very close friends or cousins just to show brotherly love and prove that they got their back at all times *NOT in a gay way*.
ReplyDeleteI think guys don't go to far in expressing bromance because since its not homosexual or anything, it is fine.
People who actually find bromance weird are just loser i swear to god. It is not gay of guys to show their closest friends that they are with them in every stupid and smart decisions.
I agree that the video was exaggerated, but only because it was intended for humor. But why do you think that they had to make up such a term as "bromance" for males but nothing for females?
DeleteAnd yes, I agree that bromance is not homosexual as long as it doesn't express anything sexual.
I think thats mainly because girls cannot have a good friendship because of their jealousy trait :P.
DeleteGuys will swear at each other and beat each other up and still be friends and if girls wear the same outfits , oh its world war 3.
i think the term bromance was made because it's basically like showing love to your close friends whom you see as your brothers.
Yes the actions in the video were exaggerated but I think that was the whole point of it because it shows what this term can allude to in today’s society—how far some people take to justify their actions with the same sex. I haven’t really seen such affection among men unless they’re really close friends then they’re past the awkward stage and they make jokes about it themselves, for example to meet in the bedroom etc. As long as the two involved in the “bromance” are okay with it, no one else has a problem with it. But I think this term was only created so men can defend their sexual orientation showing people that they are hetero. Like you said, there isn’t a term similar to this for girls so I see an imbalance there. I don’t see why guys need to justify themselves by saying, “no homo” or “bromance” to describe their physical contact or relationship with another guy friend. I think terms like bromance are offensive to members of the gay community because it feels like as if guys are informing everyone “Oh I’m not gay,” as if that should be made public in the first place. Of course we don’t think twice when two girls are hugging etc, but if guys do they have ways of doing it even to show it’s a “normal” hug. For example guys usually pat the other person’s back while hugging unlike girls who might hug longer due to their affection for their friend/family whoever it is.
ReplyDeleteI agree, I also think the term bromance was created due to men trying to defend their sexual orientation to show that they are not homosexuals. However, I don't see how this might offend the homosexuals, since they know they are not heterosexual it shouldn't matter to them. But yes, I see friends that are close having no issue showing a bit more affection like hugging. However, people make a big deal out of it because it is not normal.
DeleteFor your first question, I gotta say ALL THE TIME! I mean just talking about hugs, its something best friends do, it has nothing to do with homosexuality, people might think it is but I disagree with that. Its a very common thing I mean how many times do you hear the word "bro" everyday? It's just the way people are nowadays. This is because of communication between friends has increased , people know lots and lots of people so they don't call them "man" they just say "bro". I don't consider there to be a limit of how far you go with your best friends, but a hug is nothing it's a hug, people that are going to wine about hugging your best friend are pathetic(no offense). If his really like your "bro" what's wrong with that, I mean don't all of us hug our siblings? It's just a way of spreading love and positive energy.Last but not least, I don't see why this is only targeted towards men, like why isn't there a "sismance"? I see girls hugging and kissing all the time, why is it men only?
ReplyDeleteTrue, I hear the word "bro" quite frequently nowadays. However, I also hear the word "man" very often as well. It became a norm in the way people communicate in today's society. However, the term "bromance" came about for males to express themselves without being seen as a homosexual. Females on the other hand, never had this dilemma, no one questioned their sexual orientation when they hugged. This is probably why the term "sismance" never came to be.
DeleteI think that bromance still exists because I see it in school and in videos but not to the extent in the video because, like everyone else said, its kind of exaggerated for humor purposes.I think bromance it is normal in society because you see it everywhere. When people are happy, sad or just grateful we see people hugging each other and I don't see why society should view it as anything but the norm. I don't find bromance offensive because it doesn't concern me how people interact with their friends. I think that it is normal for women to show affection to one another because how society views it as normal.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, society plays a big role in people's perception of things such as homosexuality. And yes, video was exaggerated a lot. On the other hand, some may consider the whole bromance gay, because of their insecurity of not wanting to be judged gay. This is what makes hugging and such awkward.
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ReplyDeleteI believe that bromance is shown in our society but not to the extent it is portrayed in the video. I don't really see males showing such affection unless they are joking around, i don't see it often in our society. I do find it offensive because i don't think people need a word to state their sexual orientation because it makes it seem like gays are inferior than them. They should act however they want with their friends without having to defend themselves. I do think it is normal for females to show such affection because females are generally more expressive with their emotions. However, males are not expressive, and do not act like that with their friends and if they do they are considered gay due to media stereotypes of how gay men act.
ReplyDeleteTrue, it is because of media that men are judged in that way. Also, as a male, I agree that men tend to show less expression than women. However, it is becoming a little common for guys to hug their close friends.
DeleteI usually show my bromance when its appropriate such as a pleasant surprise or expressing some grattitude although the bromantic actions are never too intimate. I definitely think bromance is common throughout society but in no situation will a kiss or groping be appropriate. I would consider it normal for females to have the same type of affection towards eachother although it is less common but often times accepted for girls to break the kiss and groping barrier that is forbidden in bromantic culture.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Spencer, it is quite common in today's society but obviously not to the extent of showing too much affection. And yes, it is more common for girls to express more affections. Perhaps because society views these actions as womanly, which in turn makes it normal for girls to do it. However, men are considered to be manly and strong to show no emotions, and thus makes it awkward to even hug another male friend.
DeleteBromance is displayed by males frequently. There is nothing worng with it when it remains appropriate. I agree with Spencer, the acts should never be too intimate.
ReplyDeleteYou said, "Bromance is the relationship with your best male friends without the homosexual factor". I disagree with this. There may be the "homosexual factor" without you knowing. Bromance can be a closeted act of expressing homosexual feelings without facing the judgement. Do you think there is a limit to bromance? At what point do you say, "what the hell are you doing"?
I believe there is a limit to bromance, when the actions become sexual towards another male. Of course a hug to your best friend would only mean a hug to your best friend, there shouldn't be any doubts to that. However, when it comes to more than just a hug, the emotions and expressions you would show to a female, then I think that is the point where it becomes homosexual.
DeleteI agree with Kiran that the video is exaggerated I bit too much. I see bromance in the school all the time. To be honest I even show some "bromance" to my friends aswell. I don't think bromance is a common thing in society because some people will think that you are a homosexual. This makes the person who are showing their affection for their friends feel insecure in my opinion. The farthest I've ever gone to showing bromance to my friends was slapping their butts after they have accomplished something. I don't find bromance offensive because if girls can show their affections to her friends why can't guys? In society girls showing romance to another looks "cute" but somehow when two guys do it, it's just weird. I feel that it is alright to show bromance once in awhile.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, I think most males don't show the affection they want to because they are insecure. If you are very close to a friend, there shouldn't be anything wrong with expressing love to your buddy. Not homo-sexually of course. And if girls do it why can't guys you say? I think society has brought certain standards to people's behavior and actions. We are to conform, otherwise be judged differently.
DeleteI do see men showing their affection but it has some limits. Like Spencer said there are limits that should not be crossed in order to keep the friendship going. I agree that it is a common thing in society and I think it has always happened in society and it is and has always been acceptable. I think it is normal for women to show this kind of affection and I think that this again is due to the way that society sees men and women. I think the fear of men being homo has scared the “straight” men into thinking that it’s not good to be touchy-touchy with their other male friends in case they turn out to be gay.
ReplyDeleteI see "bromance" often in our society. I think this is because the media has portrayed it as a normal thing, rather than something that is frowned upon. My friends and I do have this "bromance" aspect in our relationship. I don't find "bromance" offensive because, well, I don't really care about how people live their lives. I wouldn't think it would be weird if females showed this type of affection to other females because I think it's more common for women to have a "bromance" type relationship with their friends.
ReplyDeleteBromance has become normal in our society because as Amanjot has stated that society has made it a positive thing, i also think it's a positive way for guys to show their affection just as females do without having to be weird-ed out, or being judged about. I also don't find it offensive and i'm use to it because I see it happening at our school. what do you think about it?
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