Many males play a part in this as well. If a man listens to his girlfriend or pulls out a chair for her before taking a seat himself, other males start calling him names such as "whipped", or "pussy". How often do you hear these terms being thrown around? Do you find it offensive?
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In the past, many of the men have risked their lives for women. Even Bruno Mars is willing to "catch a grenade for her". Have men just grown insensitive?
A strange pattern was noticed that helped many males use to pin the death of chivalry on females. Chivalry rates lowered as feminism rates increased. Do you think feminism is the cause of this?
Perhaps, it's the media. In the media, males are stereotyped to be strong, and independent. They can "get all the girls without even trying". Women in the media tend to be paired with the good looking guy. Which makes sense, good looking girl, plus good looking guy, equals perfect, but most of those good looking guys turn out to be rude and insensitive. Do you think the debate of looks vs. personality is affecting peoples self esteem? do you think males, and females take this too seriously?
Here, I have a video about the death of chivalry:
Do you think this video is offensive? Why or why not?
David Chapelle says the death of chivalry is caused partially by the lack of self esteem in women. Do you believe that could be true?
What do you think is the cause in the declining rate of chivalrist acts?
Girls, do you think there's still a chance for you to find your knight in shining Armour? What expectations do you have from them?
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ReplyDeleteIn today's society both women and men are proving to show that they are capable of taking care of themselves and do not require the need of the other sex. However, this does not mean that we shouldn't express kindness to the opposite sex by lending them a hand, per say, holding the door.
ReplyDeleteAs a male, I do it to not show that women are inferior, but because it's the right thing to do. There is no reason to be feeling offended by such a gesture, because I'm sure that it would be rude to not hold the door for someone while they are passing by.
Also, I've never heard anyone being insulted for expressing kindness to the opposite sex.
I agree, however I do think some people take it too far. I think its just as David Chapelle said, men and women don't get along as well as they used to. Do you believe this to be true? I guess the genders just believe the other is out to get them. so they take even kind actions negatively. Yesterday, as I walked to Tim hortons I saw a male hold the door for a female and she yelled at him about how she didn't need his help and that he was apparently showing the superiority of men through these small daily actions.
DeleteOverall, I think these acts of kindness should be presented, but people need to realize that not everything is circulated around superiority. Would you agree?
I suppose men and women have become quite competitive in today's society. However, women and men do get along, of course there will be situations where there are conflicts, but it's normal. On the other hand, I don't know if it has been increasing. As you said, media does play a big factor in manipulating people's perspective of things such as chivalry and make it a big deal. These actions are rather generous, not negative. People shouldn't make a big deal out it, instead make peace.
DeleteI agree with that 100%. Media exaggerates tiny things people do in their live daily, and makes it a big deal. But the only problem with the media is that we can't completely stop it. All we can do is try to avoid conflicts due to it.
DeleteThis video is not offensive at all because the society we live in today, some prick women kill chivalry because they do not have manners and adequate of themselves so they put down others.
ReplyDeleteFeminism is manly the cause of death of chivalry because feminists quarrel with men's behavior and misjudge it that we want something in return for opening the door for them but from our perspective, it is just opening a door and that's it.
I think women do play a big part in the death of Chivalry, but the males can't be ignored either. If an individual holds the door open for a female or holds her purse for 10 minutes while she packs up he is called gay, whipped, etc.
DeleteDon't you believe reaction such as these deters people from doing the right thing?
Yes absolutely, that's a fact that it deters people especially men because than next time that man hesitates in doing a good deed for the female or any female.
DeleteIt's mainly because it puts them down and the only reason it puts them down is because they never do it for anything in return.
So if they did do it for something in return, it wouldn't bother them or deter them?
Deletechivalry is done as as act of kindness and letting reactions deter you from doing the right this is morally wrong..
don't you think so?
Being a woman, I like female power, but on the topic of chivalry, I have to say that us woman have brought this upon ourselves. I feel that the sea of femanists that have begun to rise over the past few year have made women more away of their true role in society, and have opened thier eyes up to all of their options. Now of cource, not all women have been turned into ultra-fememnists, but for woman, the feeling of power is a big part of their lifestyles. Women now-a-days demand equality. Now, if a man wants to display chivalry, they have a hard time becasue the woman he is with is so aware of femanism, she would almsot feel offended that he is doing that. So therefore, I get where guys are coming from when they say that women killed chivalry.
ReplyDeleteSaying that, I don't find the video offensive becasue I think that most of the things that he said were true. I personally think that it is sweet if a guy opens a door for a girl, or if he is curteous.
I wouldn't say that I am necessarily waiting for a "knight in shinning armour" but I do have some expectations for a guy. Firstly, they have to be well educated, or atleast have the same amount of education that I would have, because I feel that he would understand me better. He should also have a good job becasue he has to ultimatley support a family. I also want the guy to be relgious (not ultra crazy religious) but he should be aware of his religiouse duties.
Although I agree that women are the cause of the death of chivalry, don't you believe the males had a small part to play in this as well? The way males act towards another is very immature and when an individual shows an act of kindness, he is disrespected or teased.
ReplyDeleteDespite women's role in the death of chivalry, if men acted in a positive way to one another when they did something nice or chivalrous towards a women, perhaps chivalry would be more common.
what do you think?
sorry, is this question for me?
Deleteoops, im sorry. Yes, it was for you
DeleteYes, that's true because I noticed that a lot of guys have tendencies to laugh or make fun of other guys who display chivalry. I think that it's really childish, and what they don't get is that it is just common courtesy, which is something that we learned in our childhood. If guys didn't make fun of other guys who showed chivalry, then they wouldn't feel embarrassed, and they would still want to do it on another occasion.
DeleteNo I don't think that the video is offensive because what he is says is somewhat true and he just made it into something comical and enjoyable for people to watch. I don't think that the cause of chivalry is necessarily linked to women have low self-esteem but with the fact that want to be treated equality. Women don't want to be subordinate to men in their daily lives but when it comes to their romantic life it different. I think that the declining acts of chivalry has to do with the fact that guys are confused and don't know when to be chivalrous and when not to be. I don't really expect to find my 'knight in shining armor' because that's implying that I'll find the perfect person and know one is perfect. I don't expect them to be perfect, just someone who is respectful, religious and has a job that will sustain a family.
ReplyDeleteSince I agree with your argument, I just wanted to ask you whether you think women are the victims or agents of the death of chivalry? Since they are the ones causing it in a way, but they face the result as well.
DeleteI don't find the video offensive whatsoever because everything he stated was totally true. I believe that Dave did an excellent job in stating his point without demeaning women. I do believe that a women's lack of self esteem causes them to take chivalry in the wrong way. Girls with low self esteem seem to think that any man that is chivalrous towards them is not genuine about it. Women need to calm down and not criticize everything a man does. I feel that feminism has went from getting equal rights for females to bashing men in every way. I believe that women play a major role for the decline of chivalry and media has a big part in it. Media shows main leads to be jerks therefore, that idea has gotten into a lot of people. I would like my man to be generous not just to me but everyone around me. I do believe there are a lot of people who have that characteristic therefore, its not hard to find. I know that if i want a guy to be generous to me, i have to be generous to him as well. I wouldn't want to be the kind of girl who treats her guy inferior than them. A lot of girls these days want chivalry but are not willing to give it back and i am not saying you have to pull a chair for them, just be kind when you have the opportunity.
ReplyDeleteWhat about the self esteem of men? Haven't you noticed the increased amount of name-calling to those of the boys who attempt to be chivalrous? I think this could deter many men from being chivalrous. What do you think? Do you agree or disagree? Why?
DeleteChivalry is going away becasue women are realizing that they can be independednt to the fullest extent.
ReplyDeletePulling a chair out for someone is a simple act of courtesy. There is a difference between being courteous and "whipped". If I saw a guy perfroming a courteous act towards a woman, I wouldn't poke fun at him.
What is the difference? Regardless, wouldn't it be rude to call anyone whipped anyways?
DeleteBesides chivalry is a give-take type of thing. Women should be chivalrous towards men as well, however you don't see it often. Could this have an effect in your opinion?
I really liked the video, it was not at all offensive, and the guy was “tellin’ it like it is”. I honestly don’t know whether the fact that men buy good cars because girls like them is true but, that fact stood out for me. He was funny and everything he said I assume had some background to it. This video was meant for both men and women and it was entertaining.
ReplyDeleteI don’t know if the death of chivalry was caused by a lack of self esteem in women, but it does sound about right. Women are being influenced into doing things because some person thinks they know what they are saying and know what men want. I think women are all beautiful in their own way, God made us all beautiful and we cannot go around imposing our views on what others should consider beautiful.
I would hate to say it but, it’s true, women are the reason for the fall of chivalry. Women can sometimes be extreme feminists and I think this in reaction to feeling insignificant and unwanted. I mean, I have times when I go extreme feminist especially when women are being targeted by men, I feel it is my duty to protect the women in the world, but there are also times when I feel that men should treat women properly, I think every women wants to be loved and treated well, and no I don’t think that chivalry is dead. There are still men who do try to treat women in a special way but, it’s the women that don’t want to be treated that way, just like the comic above.
I want to believe that there is that perfect man out there waiting for me, but there is no assurance of who he is and if he actually does exist. I believe that there are still knights in shining armor but the armor just needs to be scrubbed clean. I think all guys are someone’s knight in shining armor but they need to find that one girl that will change them forever and when the two find each other they will help each other to become the best for each other. For me, I think that the guy should be fun and able to treat me well, when I feel good and when I feel ill. We should be able to talk to each other and understand each other. Looks would be a bonus but I really only care about personality.