Have you ever had a crush on a girl? Did you ever finally build up enough confidence to talk to her, only for her to disclose that you two are only friends? Have you ever wondered why? Is it because women have too high of a standard for us men? Not just men have this problem, I'm sure that some girls, if not most, have been in this delema before. But do females get friendzoned as much as males? According to Urban Dictionary, being friendzoned is:
But how do you know if you are in the friendzone? Watch the video and tell me what you think. as I will be posting some intriguing questions.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSG97zCOlyo
After watching this video, I have these following questions:
1) Do you think that women are more likely to friendzone men? Why or why not?
2) Do you agree with what John says? Do people stay in the friendzone in an attempt to get closer to the person they hookup with?
3) Does the media have an affect on how people interpret the term "Friendzoning"?
4) Why is being "Friendzoned" so feared in modern day society
5) Have you ever been friendzoned? If so, are you still? If not, how were you able to move on?
Women are definitely more likely to friendzone men because men basically show the desperate need of women in their lives for sex and food. The reason they friendzone more is either they do not like the guy at all or they from out of nowhere assume that good guys never finish first and would not keep them happy at all.
ReplyDeleteFriendzoned is a feared term in todays society because no guy or girl wants o be friendzoned, but it is although easier for girls to get out of a friendzone.
I personally don't know if i have been friendzoned because to be honest i never knew that term until i got in a relationship so im glad i did not know about it because it i guess gives a peculiar feeling inside of us naturally of not being able to achieve something.
I completely agree. I agree that women are more likely to friendzone men then men friendzoning women. I like how you also made the point that women can get out of it easier then men and how men have a need for sex and food, which prompts them to act desperate around women. Thank you for commenting
DeleteWoman are definitely more likely to friendzone men because its a reality that almost every guy a girl meets, the guy is going to try to hook up with her. In most cases women have options of guys to choose from. They usually pick one to develop a romantic relationship with, and "friendzone" the rest. I do belive that a lot of people stay in the friendzone in order to get closer to the crush they want to hook up with. I like to call those people, suckers. Being friendzoned is so feared because once friendzoned, from there on in, their desire for that person increases and it is an uphill battle for the guy or girl to win the hearts of their crush in a romantic way. I personally have been friendzoned. I did eventually get out of the friendzone but it took a long time. I was able to move on, by simply moving on. Taking it as a learning experience and playing the field works just fine.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what Spencer said, that women are more likely to friendzone men. However I don`t believe that every guy is going to try to hook up with every girl he meets. If they are in a relationship then i don`t think it should be called `friendzone` because according the picture above, friendzone means that one person likes another person but the other person declares them as just a friend. If you are in a satisfied relationship, you would not want a third person in the relationship. Being friendzoned is so feared in modern day society because it is similar to getting rejected, who likes getting rejected and feel like they are not wanted?
Deletei agree with you Spencer on girls being more likely to friendzone then men. I also agree on the fact that women do have a "list" of men to choose from. I think women typically have the power when trying to hookup. They can simply play with ones emotions and seemly get away with it. I like how you call men who are stuck in the friendzone "suckers". I dont think it is as hard as people think to get out of friendzoning. I think its within the person to simply move on, as you said.
DeleteBooly, if you are trying to hookup with someone but are trying to know them better as a person and when you finally ask her out and she rejects you on the grounds that you two are only "friends", how isn't that friendzoning? In the definition above, it states that when a man, for whatever reason, wants to hook up with a woman, gets rejected because the woman thinks that they're only "friends". The definition did not say that the girl you're trying to hookup with is in a relationship. What type of man tries and destroys a relationship, simply for his own selfish desires? We call that "snaking" where I come from. A woman doesn't discard you when you're being friendzoned, she discards the fact that you two will never be more than friends. Thank you for taking the time to comment on my blog, appreciate it
DeleteIn response to your questions, I hesitate to agree with your argument that women are more likely to friend zone men, than men friendzone women. In my opinion, I find that both women and men friendzone each other very equally based on relationships (“friendships”) that I’ve observed. However, I do agree that women are stereotypically known for being the gender that dominate the friend zone movement. The reason I believe that women are known by society as being labelled with friend zoning men, is because that’s how we’re portrayed by society. In fact, the term “friend zone” was popularized by the comedy show Friends, by Joey when he tells Ross that he is friend zoned by Rachel. Because this term was first used to describe a woman friend zoning a man, it helped begin a male movement of describing rejected situations in this manner. For example, when you think about a pilot, what comes to mind? Majority of you will say a man is what comes to mind. Why is this? Well, perhaps it’s because the first pilot was a man... And the second... And the third. This is the very same reason women are stereotypically known as friend zoning their male friends. I don’t see being “Friend zoned” as a societal fear. I see the it as a phrase that has provided societies with an understanding of how a man or a woman feel when they are rejected from a further relationship that is more than just friendship.
ReplyDeleteI can see where you're coming from in respects to your first point. with that being said, a man could try and hit on a girl and get her number, but when he finally asks her out she says that they're "just friends". It typically doesn't even have to start out with a "friendship". He could just be trying to get closer to her, see what she likes etc and she might be feeling a different way. I love your pilot analogy, but me personally see both women and men being pilots, I don't look at one specific gender. Lastly, Julie, I didn't expect that you would understand why friendzoning is so feared in society, you're a woman. Men aren't just under pressure with women when they try and hookup with them, they're also under the pressure from other men who watch on ready to declare that they're friendzoned. Appreciate you commenting by the way, look forward to discussing this with you in class.
DeleteLol! You're so sexist. Of course I understand how a guy feels when he is rejected of an intimate relationship with a girl. I just think that girls are much smarter about the way they handle themselves with this situation. I find that guys always chase after girls that are out of their league, and are disappointed with the end results. Being friend zoned shouldn't be feared, but a learning factor. Maybe the tactics used to "win" the girl aren't working. In regards to hitting on a girl to get her number. I was waiting for the bus the other day to go to work, and as the bus was coming, this man stopped his car in front of me on the road and left it running while he got out to talk to me. He asked for my number which I politely said no to, and I got on the bus. This man was crazy enough to get on the bus while his car was running only to sit next to me and insist on my number. He paid a bus fare, might I add. Finally, after me saying no a couple of times, he gave me his number and got off the bus two stops later. Now how would you like me to respond to this, or any girl for that matter? Immediate friend/leave me alone zone.
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DeleteWomen are more likely to friendzone men. The reason is because men want more than just a friendship with girls, but then they fall into the friendzone. People could stay in the friendzone and hope to hook up with their friend. But I have never heard of anyone that has done that. I feel that the media over exaggerate the term "friendzone." They make it look like it is a horrible place to be in and is impossible to get out. I think people fear the friendzone because it makes them feel that they have lost their hopes on getting in a relationship with the partner. I personal have been friendzoned before, and I think that I have gotten out of it also. You just have to forget the pass and move on with your life. As they say there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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DeleteAgreed! Thank you for sharing some of personal experiences with handling friendzoning. I also agree with you when you say to just simply move on and forget the past.
DeleteI do believe women are more likely to friend zone a man and im not sure why that is. Maybe its the fact that men only talk a lot to a girl they find attractive where a women talks to everyone who is nice to her. Women like having an opposite gender as their really close friend, so they can get different opinion on situations.
ReplyDeleteNo, i do not agree with him. Maybe they stay their friend because they like spending time with them. They will rather have them as a friend than lose them fully. I don't believe the only intention is to hookup with them there can be so many other reasons to why they decide to stay their friend.
Yes, media totally has a affect on friend zone. Media portrays being in friend zone as the worst thing that can happen to a man. When in reality, sometimes people like being just friends with someone because a friendship can mean more than a relationship to them. I am just assuming, i dont actually know.
I think it is feared a lot in today's society because apparently being in friend zone means that you will never have a chance with that girl. She will never get into a relationship with you and you will forever be just her friend.
Women are more likely to friend zone men. This is because, it is usually the man who does the approaching. John is correct. Being in the friend zone can be used to its advantage. It puts you in a position to still be close to that person. The media over blows the whole concept of being friend zoned. It's not a big deal, move on to the next one. Since the media and internet memes have overblown being friend zoned, people are afraid of being in that situation. There are plenty of friend zone jokes on the social network. No, I wasn't friend zoned. If I want to be friends with someone, it is on my own terms.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you, there is a difference between being a friend and being friendzoned. When you agree that you and a female will be friends , that is being a friend. When you are trying to hit on a girl and she declares that you two are no more than friends, that is being stuck in the friendzone. Thank you for commenting brother
DeleteI think women are more likely to friendzone because a lot of times when a girl is simply being nice to a guy, they think she likes him and is leading them on. But a lot of the times this isn’t the case and the girl ends up having to friendzone the guy because they took misinterpreted her actions. I think what John said might be a possibility if the person is really desperate and are unable to walk away from their “love.” Yes the media does affect how people view friend zoning as because we always see that the sweet caring men are always being friendzoned while women pursue rude and bad-ass type of men. I guess no one wants to be friendzoned because apparently there’s no easy way out of it. Once a girl sees them in that friend-brother way there’s no way she’ll change her mind about them instead she’ll look at other options.
ReplyDeleteI think that women are more likely to friend zone men because of the fact that they like want to make friends with more people whereas if a guy likes someone but they girls just wants to be friend than they agree so that they can still be with them.
ReplyDeleteI do agree I think that people stay in the friend zone because they want to get to know the person more. I learned In Individuals & families about the theory of propinquity which is the idea that the more frequently you are with a person the more physical reaction will occur between the two people. This is why we sometimes see people who are long time friends who end up dating and etc.
I think the media does have an effect on how people view the term friendzone. I dont think that it has to be a bad thing it just might be better for the people to stay friends instead of going into a relationship then hating eachother
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ReplyDeleteMany people believe that women are more likely to friend zone men. I personally believe this as well because most women have a crazy guard up. It may seem like a sterotype but it's true. A majority of women are scared and insecure because they have this idea in their heads where they think all men want to do is just hook up, in most cases media portrays exactly this. But what ever happened to the few genuine guys who actually want to get to know a girl and start a serious relationship? That's the aspect that kind of makes me feel bad for some men. The media has a very big impact on the way people percieve the concept of "friend zoning". It's never that serious. If a woman isn't interested, then she simply isn't interested. If a man isn't interested, then he simply isn't interested. Lol it seems like people make the biggest deals out of the smallest things these days. I don't think people fear getting friend zoned, but perhaps don't want to face humiliation and their feelings getting hurt.
ReplyDeleteI think women friendzoning men is more publicized rather then the other way around which makes it seem like men don't do the same to women. This is because if a women friendzones a man he loses pride in society's eyes and all his friends will make fun of him but if a guy does it to a girl, then it's what ever or he's not ready for a relationship. I also think it is more likely for it to happen to men only because men pursue women and will try to flirt and get the conversation going. If she does not flirt back or respond in the same manner he would be friend zoned. I think society exaggerates the meaning of this word and makes it negative because sometimes people just don't want a relationship.
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